I’ve never been the type of person who dreamed about her wedding as a young girl (or teenager). The only thing I knew was that I wanted to either elope or a have a huge party with tons of friends and family, even though they are completely different experiences.
After giving it some thought, Zach and I decided that having a wedding in Des Moines with the best people we know was going to make us the happiest.
So what have we learned along the way? After only two short months of being a “fiance,” I decided to spend some time reflecting on this whole engagement deal.
1. I’ve learned who the most important people in his and my life are. Creating a guest list (god help us all) is an eye-opening experience. We can’t invite everyone, so we had to really think about the people who matter most and why. Seeing Zach’s list of people and my list of families I’ve nannied for and friends since childhood has been a great place for us to learn about the most important relationships in our lives.
2. We get to “engage” in conversations that are pretty essential to marriage. From talking about having kids to making financial decisions, we’ve definitely made it a point to keep the door wide open about those sticky, weird conversations that typically don’t happen on bike rides or going out for a burrito.
3. We still get to be our own person. I find that some people completely disappear when they get in a relationship or get married. Or they start doing only things their significant other/spouse does. Zach and I always invite each other to things we do with friends/family, but never pressure each other to be there or else. This has always been huge for me as I love to bounce around and do a million things & I know he does too!
4. Creative juices are a flowin’. So I never had a Pinterest board before I even met a man or while we were dating, but my Pinterest board is feeling the love these days. The ideas, the colors, the flowers (currently obsessed with eucalyptus), the dresses, the hair. We have our meeting with the venue coordinator in just a few weeks and you can absolutely count on seeing project ideas come to life.
5. I get to join a whole new family, which means we get to spend more and more time together. Just coming off a vacation to Germany with my future in-laws was confirmation that I have a loving set of future family members who are kind, supportive, and fun! I know Zach feels the same way about mine and continuing to enjoy one another’s company is really refreshing as a newly engaged lady.
6. One thing I really love about being engaged is planning a bachelorette party. It’s not because I want to go out and get all crazy; I just adore the idea of being around the sweetest, coolest chicks in my life in (hopefully) San Diego for a handful of days. It’s really only birthdays when that magic can happen, so doing it twice in one year is pretty great.
7. Zach and I get to dream and scheme. We were basically already doing that a couple months in because we loooove to travel, but now it feels more real because we are really planning on forever. We even created a fun blog together called Iowanderers, where we want to capture our travels, other Iowans travels, and ultimately make it a profitable site.
8. Every day I get to wear a wedding ring that is rooted in my family’s history. My grandma died in a tragic accident 16 years ago and my mom got her ring (which was actually merged with my great-grandma’s ring as well). When my mom showed it to me, I instantly fell in love and it fit perfectly. I treasure that ring more than most things in my life because of the memory it holds. <3
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