And it was time.
On Saturday, I had a “closet audit.” My auditor, Christina, had me put different pieces together, get rid of things that were not working for me any longer and commit to adding some items that would help build my wardrobe.
Here’s the thing about my lifestyle… I work in a professional setting. I have meetings with corporate funders, executive directors and so on. I also go to schools to talk about volunteering and participate in service events. I go to CrossFit during lunch and then teach yoga after work. Everything about choosing an outfit in the morning is complex. I have a nose ring and a tattoo that’s visible when my hair is up. I am constantly trying to put out an image to multiple audiences. Some people are like, screw it Emily, just wear what you want! No. I’m sorry. People make a judgement about you within seven seconds and being put together is absolutely part of it. I’m not going to change who I am to cater to others’ perceptions of what a professional must look like, but I’m definitely cognizant. I can’t keep being rebellious with bandana wearing and clothing myself in dresses that are too short if I expect a certain level of respect. My coworkers may still see me barefoot and in yoga pants here and there, but I’m not always going to get it right. 😉
Here’s what I learned during the process that either a) I never actually spoke into existence but kind of knew, b) I wanted to compleeeetely ignore or c) I had never, ever thought of:
1. I am an impulsive purchaser (knew that). What does that cause? Buying ridiculous shirts with an open back that’s completely not work appropriate. It’s “saved for weekends.” Yeah, right! My weekends are for lululemon leggings & sweatshirts. So, purchase failure.
2. I have an hourglass shape body. Cool! I always kind of knew that, but for every purchase I focused on petites, not hourglass size. Turns out I’m both. Woo! Add to the difficulty of finding clothes that fit well, am I right?
3. Having strong legs is really fabulous and also quite difficult. That’s where tailors come in handy. I typically buy size four because of the waist, but the legs are kind of tight. I avoid the sixes because the waist is big, but the legs fit so well. I left that conversation knowing I needed to try on the sixes and find a tailor to bring in the waist. Last time I went to a tailor was for my prom dress.
4. Get an f’ing iron already! Not kidding, this is on my 25 for 25 because I know it’s relevant. But I stop in the aisle at Target and say, smh, I want nail polish. I’ll get it next time (Um, six times later…).
5. Invest in pieces. I’m 25. If I want a shirt, it better last a few years minimum. If I want shoes, I better waterproof them if I want them to last. I need to hang my pants, stop tossing my black pumps in the shoe bin and not wash linen items myself.
6. More is not necessarily better. I had so. many. clothes. For being someone who is pretty minimalism-minded, I was just disgusted with things I was holding onto “just in case I didn’t have any other options” or the classic “I might need this someday.” I am attending an event where fuchsia is the color of choice and I have no pieces that color, so what do I do? I ask to borrow. I don’t have to buy or rent. So “needing something someday” might be true, but borrow it!
I am so pleased with how this went. I get in a mindset pretty quickly and get a little obsessive… therefore I was just like “YOU’LL GO! YOU WILL FIND A HOME ON GOODWILL SHELVES! YOU ARE GROSS! YOU REMIND ME OF THAT GUY! I’LL NEVER DRY CLEAN YOU!” It was rather freeing. I continued on this whole building a fabulous wardrobe thing and went and bought some great pieces online. This may be coming to my door soon… (omg, Julie don’t judge me) along with a pair of Oxfords, a black blazer, a black pencil skirt, and a gold pendant necklace. Whew. I’m done & am working on being done with this bottle of wine. <3
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