I can’t tell you the number of women who have messaged me about FemCity Des Moines, wondering if there’s a place for them, if they will belong, if it’s OK to attend events.
My answer every single time is YES.
How often do we sit on the periphery of events and… life (!!!) because we are looking for permission to do something that intrigues us.
Will I fit in?
Am I ready?
Will I be dressed up enough?
Am I qualified?
I get that FemCity is new to many gals and that the questions they are asking about attending are legitimate, but I also sense that it’s a way to get permission & validation for others.
I know this because I also see myself doing it. Especially in areas I’m not confident. Ask some of my coworkers. Before I send an email, I’ll have them review “just to make sure it’s good.” AKA: I don’t believe in myself and need you to tell me it was good, that I’m awesome, yada yada.
Liz Gilbert totally brought it home for me in Big Magic:
“All of which is to say: You do not need a permission slip from the principal’s office to live a creative life. Or if you do worry that you need a permission slip—THERE, I just gave it to you.”
Do you want a raise? Here’s your permission slip to ask for it.
Do you want a new job? Here’s your permission slip to look for one and also quit the job you’re at whenever & however you would like.
Do you want to build a business? Okay, great. Here’s another permission slip. Go get ’em.
Really, the gist of all of this is simple: Just do it.
Show up. Be brave. Stop doubting. Find courage.
Step outside the norm and I guarantee you will grow and bend and mold yourself into a better version of yourself.
We all learn from people, experiences, travels, books, classes and all the things that sometimes intimidate us.
Imagine yourself being completely and utterly brave today. What would you do?
No, really, what would you do because the world needs to know. Share in comments or on the social feed you found it. Let’s use our voices and step into a more courageous, bold world together where being fully present, our truest selves, and vulnerable is normal. <3