I recently hosted a small social with friends & acquaintances to flush out a coworking/incubator space idea. Since many of them didn’t know each other very well, we went around the room and every person had to complete the following statement:
I want to be known for…
Some people wrote paragraphs, while others wrote just a few words. Some were unsure of themselves when they answered and some knew exactly what they wanted to be known for. It was really interesting to observe. In that moment people chose to be vulnerable, which is one of my subjects of interest as of late. Brene Brown talks a lot about vulnerability in her TED Talk that has reached 22 million people (what?!?!).
Because, what if what I say isn’t as profound as the girl next to me? What if it’s just a stupid thing to be known for? What if I don’t really care about being known for anything… will people judge me?
We’ve all been there with these thought trains & listening to Brene’s stuff again this weekend was a reminder to me to express, be heard, say, feel.
“You ruin your life by desensitizing yourself. We are all afraid to say too much, to feel too deeply, to let people know what they mean to us. Caring is not synonymous with crazy. Expressing to someone how special they are to you will make you vulnerable. There is no denying that. However, that is nothing to be ashamed of. There is something breathtakingly beautiful in the moments of smaller magic that occur when you strip down and are honest with those who are important to you. Let that girl know that she inspires you. Tell your mother you love her in front of your friends. Express, express, express. Open yourself up, do not harden yourself to the world, and be bold in who, and how you love. There is courage in that.” – Bianca Sparacino
As we went around the room saying what we want to be known for, it finally clicked for me. I found a word that defines what I want to do and who I want to be.
I want to be known for being disruptive.
Disrupting the status quo, disrupting the way people think their lives should be based on a formula given from their parents, disrupting the way nonprofits currently work together. Disruptive. This doesn’t mean I want to be this loud, “hear me roar” type of person. I want to do this in a way that’s behind the scenes, quiet, and meaningful.
So, what do you want to be known for?